Sunday, August 7, 2011

As a well spent day brings happy sleep,

so life well used brings happy death. ~
Leonardo DaVinci

I normally don't go personal on this blog, but today "stuff" is irrelevant. My best friend of 35 years lost her 20 year battle with cancer on Friday. But, she truly had a life "well used" and surely had a "happy death," but those of us left behind are dealing with the pieces of our hearts that have been pulled out.
Peggy and I were like sisters, and, even though 20 years ago we both moved to opposite ends of the coast...she went to Florida, and we came to New Jersey, every week the phone kept us connected, and over the years, we would get together in New York City. One of the memorable times was when it looked like the cancer had finally been controlled. Her daughter Dana is as wonderful as her mother...Peggy did a marvelous job raising a wonderful woman...although she had some of my traits...super animal lover! When she would rescue another critter, Peggy would call and tell me that "my" daughter had done such and such... Peggy was very active in the political scene. Our trip last year to New York made a Kodak moment in front of a window display. She and Dana had to strike a pose!

The last event Peggy and I attended was Jon Stewart's Rally to Restore Sanity in our old stomping grounds in D.C. Although it was apparent the cancer had returned, she made the trip alone, and she even organized our hotel arrangements.
She was excellent at setting things up, and she and her husband, Marty, and Dana had all kinds of adventures.As she constantly reminded me in the last year, "I have had a wonderful life." And so have we because you were on this earth...but now I have to remember lines from a poem...
Do not weep for me for I have not gone.
I am the wind that shakes the mighty Oak.
I am the gentle rain that falls upon your face.
I am the spring flower that pushes through the dark earth.
I am the chuckling laughter of the mountain stream.
Do not weep for me for I have not gone.

I am the memory that dwells in the heart of those that knew me.
I am the shadow that dances on the edge of your vision.
I am the wild goose that flies south at Autumns call and I shall return at Summer rising.
I am the stag on the wild hills way.
I am just around the corner.

Therefore, the wise weep not.
But rejoice at the transformation of my Being.
Give your best friend a call today just to say hi...as for me, I am not being wise...the tears come in waves, but even as the memories fill the emptiness, I will miss you so much, my BFF.

5 comments:

The Cinnamon Stick said...

I am sending you my prayers sweet friend - I am sending you the hugs that you need right now - I too lost a friend to cancer ...she was very young and I missed so many things we wanted to share together - birthdays, weddings, grandbabies!! Growing old and telling each other we still "had it"...gosh I miss her but I do have her in my heart...BTW her name was Mary Margaret - Peggy for short!!!XOXOXO, Judy

Julie said...

So very sad, Susan. I did enjoy seeing some photos of you and your best friend, especially after hearing about your adventures to NYC and DC to see Jon Stewart. (: You two seem to have had time very well spent together. Thinking of you. . . xo Julie

Perch Home said...

What a lovely tribute to your dear friend. Thinking of you today.

Lisa said...

Susan, a beautiful tribute to the wonderful friendship you and Peggy shared. May the memories of your treasured times bring you peace and comfort..for having had such a dear friend is truly a rare gift. Thank you for sharing.

Marge of Emmas Nook and Granny said...

Oh Susan, I am so sorry to learn of your friend's passing. I hope you find comfort in the memories of the special times you had together. Hugs, Marge